You can be loved for who you really are
Emotionally transparent ka ba, or walls up? Ikaw ba ’yung parang laging naka-mask kasi pakiramdam mo wala namang nakakaalam ng totoo mong nararamdaman? And why is that? Because you need to look strong, calm, and collected to the people around you. Ang tiring naman ’non.
As we continue our series, ‘Strong and Safe Relationships,’ let’s talk about how safe relationships let you be yourself. For me, isa ito sa mga pinaka-nahihirapan akong gawin, because I really want to be transparent and fully myself with people. Pero lumaki akong laging hindi naiintindihan ng mga tao—mula sa mga magulang ko, hanggang sa mga kaibigan, pati na rin sa mga kasama sa trabaho. In fact, one of my favorite songs when I was younger has the following lyrics:
You’ve got to love me for what I amFor simply being meDon’t love me for what you intendOr hope that I would be
Kaya may iilang kaibigan lang ako na masasabi kong I feel safe and understood. Dahil alam naming mahalaga pala ang safe community, we are currently working on this with our church family. Basahin natin itong nakasulat sa Bible:
Ang namumuhay nang tapat ay pinaghaharian ng kapayapaan,ngunit ang may likong landas ay malalantad balang araw. (Kawikaan 10:9 MBB05)
Ang pamumuhay nang tapat o may integrity is when the real you behind closed doors is the same you that people see. Ikaw ba, is it easy or hard for you to feel loved for who you really are? Ano ba ang mga hindi mo kayang ilabas sa kahit kanino lang—your deepest dreams and desires? Your weaknesses and struggles? I-practice mong paunti-unting ipakita ang totoong sarili mo. Umpisahan mo ito sa isa o dalawang taong tiwala kang hindi ka iiwan o pagtatawanan.
Tandaan mo, isa kang miracle!
